Shannen Doherty couldn’t “wrap her head around” her ex having “many, many affairs”.
The 53-year-old actress – who didn’t name the ex in question but has previously accused her ex-husband Kurt Iswarienjo of being “intimately involved” with his agent before their divorce in April 2023 – explained that while she understands a relationship might not work, she has never understood a lack of “respect” between partners.
Speaking on the ‘Let’s Be Clear With Shannen Doherty’ podcast, she said: “What I don’t understand and what I can never wrap my head around is why someone thinks that they don’t owe you as a human being respect… “I know that for me personally, it’s been very hard to find that somebody I was in a relationship with wasn’t just one affair. “It was like many, many affairs. So for me, that’s like, wow.”
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The ‘Beverly Hills, 90210’ star has found herself wondering if the former flame in question didn’t respect her “from day one”. She added: “f you didn’t respect me from day one, why would you marry me? “Why would you commit to a relationship if you couldn’t even be loyal from almost, I think, what a year and a half after we were married or something?”
Meanwhile, the alleged infidelity meant Shannen “lost all respect” for her ex. She said: “You no longer have respect for the other person. I lost all respect.
“I lost any ounce of love I had left in me for this person and… despise seems like a harsh word, but I mean it in the sense of when you have that little respect for someone that I then eventually developed, you kind of do despise them.” The ‘Charmed’ actress also pondered the idea that “being in bad relationships, dealing with a narcissist and being gaslighted” can sometimes be needed to help someone “grow and learn a lesson”.
She added: “I know that currently, I’m in a very different place than I was over a year ago. I’ve such a fight on my hands with cancer that I don’t have the time for fights with everybody else.
“I just don’t. And certainly not in my personal life. And I don’t have time for somebody who cheats.”